Dear Black Girl, Your Hair is Ugly…

That’s basically what the people who run the Deborah Brown Community School in Tulsa, OK said to 7-year-old Tiana Parker, when they sent her home from her school earlier this week because she chose to rock a natural hairstyle: dreadlocks. According to the school’s dress code, “hairstyles such as dreadlocks, afros, mohawks, and other faddish styles are unnacceptable.”

Please excuse us while we give several side-eyes.

“Unnacceptable.” Wow. So, the way a black girl’s hair naturally sprouts from her scalp is “unnacceptable.” And the kicker? The Deborah Brown Community School looks to be a predominantly black school! Self-hate much?

The message this school is sending to black girls is that in order to be worthy of a good education and future, they must dismiss parts of who they are and be more like  white girls, who wear straight or more loosely curled, and in their eyes, more acceptable hairstyles.


And BTW, white girls wear those styles because that’s the way their hair naturally grows from their heads. So, it’s ok to go natural as long as you’re not black??? Have. A. Seat.

Whether you choose to wear bone-straight relaxed strands, kinky poofs, curly afros, a mohawk, or whatever, that should be your business — your way to express your unique style. Sport your versatile crown of glory proudly.

What do you think of this rule? Does your school have any rules like this? How do you feel about other people — especially people who look like you — saying that your God-given natural hair and natural hairstyles make you less than? Speak about it in the comments below!

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